Honesty With Cannabis Is Always The Best

Honesty about Cannabis in your Relationship

There are many reasons why people would choose to hide their smoking habits from other people. Perhaps you need to safeguard your job due to the existing stigma associated with cannabis use, or simply want to keep a low profile from the general public.

However, when you are in a relationship with someone, is keeping your smoking habits under wraps a good thing?

Fortunately, for me, I live in an honest relationship and Mrs. Reefer also partakes of the sacred herb. In fact, every now and then we might head to the mountains and eat a mushroom or two together and the experience is quite amazing to say the least.

I decided a long time ago that I will not deny my habits to the people that surround me. If they have a problem with cannabis consumption, then it is ‘their problem’ and not mine. I will respect their space and will not partake in front of them (if I’m at their homes or what not), however I will continue to smoke my reefer regardless of their opinions of me.

Most people in my social circle either smoke or are okay with the habit so I don’t really run into any proverbial walls with my toking habits.

The Story of Will

I know this guy called “Will”. Now this isn’t his real name because I want to keep his identity a secret. He works with government folks and business types so keeping his identity a secret is my way of protecting him.

Now Will, he introduced me to smoking weed some twenty years ago. If it wasn’t for Will, I would probably have taken several years longer to partake. We smoked more than Cheech and Chong back in the day. In fact, one hip-hop DJ we met once said we smoke more than Cyprus Hill (since he personally knew the guys).

We both eventually went on a stint where we stopped smoking weed for a while and eventually I picked up the habit again seeing that my motivations for stopping was based on religious indoctrination and I have long shed those ideas from my mind.

Will, started up once again after a while, but by now, Will was married. His wife was brought up under the rhetoric of religion and cannabis was seen as a “drug” in her mind. And thus, Will smoked in secret as he saw nothing wrong with it. In fact, he attributed God for cannabis so in his mind he was actually doing righteous acts.

Nonetheless, there was always a sense of “guilt” associated with his smoking habits because he was harboring a secret from the person he was supposed to spend his life with. I told him on numerous occasions that smoking isn’t bad, but lying to spouse about it is.

He fought me tooth and nail on this and eventually admitted that he should tell his wife. He was scared though. How would she react? What if she gave him an ultimatum about smoking? What would all of this do to his relationship?

You have to understand, that when you have kids…these decisions can become quite complex.

Will then proceeded to indoctrinate his wife. I’m not talking about “A Clockwork Orange” indoctrination but rather a subtle approach to making her comfortable with the idea of weed.

You see, most people who oppose cannabis are not opposing cannabis because of personal conviction but rather the government indoctrination on the rhetoric of drugs. You know, “Drugs are bad and all that jazz…here take some Percocet!”

So before Will could openly talk about it, he had to remove her pre-programmed responses to the subject matter.

I’ll write another article on how to do this in more detail but for now let’s keep on discussing the story of Will.

It took Will roughly three months to get to the point where he could admit that he smokes cannabis and while his wife wasn’t too keen on the idea at first, after she partook the environment in his house changed. His wife doesn’t smoke (often) but every now and then takes a few hits here and there.

The result however, of admitting to cannabis use was that now he no longer had to hide his habits. It was his glass of wine at the end of the day, his nightcap if you will.

Now, he can freely toke without feeling guilt. His relationship is stronger that it was before because honesty is the driving force of every good relationship.

Reefer’s Last Words

You see, we should never be ashamed of our habits. It is who we are and if someone doesn’t accept you because of it, you have to ask yourself if that person is really the person for you. We are all individuals and we will all have certain traits that don’t sit well with our partners. However, acceptance is what makes our relationship work.

Of course, there is a difference between having a heroin habit versus a weed habit and when a substance negatively affects your life, then you should consider changing your habits. However, not for your partner but for you.

Mrs. Reefer and I dabble in psychedelics every now and then and it’s a healthy part of our relationship. We both feel free and we both know that when something negatively affects our relationship, we’ll talk about it and figure out a way it can work.

Smoking weed isn’t bad, but hiding it from your better half is. If you’re sitting in a relationship where your smoking habits are hidden, I suggest you start working on being honest with your partner and let the chips fall as they may. If your partner doesn’t accept you for who you are…then perhaps it isn’t the partner you should be spending your life with.

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